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The Dying Person's Bill of Rights

The cosmic religious experience is the strongest and the noblest driving force behind scientific research.
— Albert Einstein


The Dying Person's Bill of Rights

I have the right to be treated as a living human being until I die.

I have the right to maintain a sense of hopefulness, however changing its focus may be.

I have the right to be cared for by those who can maintain a sense of hopefulness, however changing this might be.

I have the right to express my feelings and emotions about my approaching death in my own way.

I have the right to participate in decisions concerning my care.

I have the right to expect continuing medical and nursing attention even though 'cure' goals must be changed to 'comfort' goals.

I have the right not to die alone.

I have the right to be free from pain.

I have the right to have my questions answered honestly.

I have the right not to be deceived.

I have the right to have help from and for my family in accepting my death.

I have the right to die in peace and dignity.

I have the right to retain my individuality and not be judged for my decisions which may be contrary to beliefs of others.

I have the right to discuss and enlarge my religious and/or spiritual experiences, whatever these may mean to others.

I have the right to expect that the sanctity of the human body will be respected after death.

I have the right to be cared for by caring, sensitive, knowledgeable people who will attempt to understand my needs and will be able to gain some satisfaction in helping me face my death.

The Centre for Living with Dying
554 Mansion Park Drive
Santa Clara, CA 95054
(408) 980-9801

The Dying Person's Bill of Rights
http://www.talamasca.org/avatar/death-rights.html


Relating to a Dying Person and Their Family

I perceive that while everything around me is ever-changing,
ever-dying, there is underlying all that change a Living Power that
is changeless, that holds all together, that creates, dissolves, and recreates.
— M.K. Gandhi

Relating to a Dying Person and Their Family

From Dealing Creatively With Death: A Manual of Death Education and Simple Burial by Ernest Morgan

I perceive that while everything around me is ever-changing, ever-dying, there is underlying all that change a Living Power that is changeless, that holds all together, that creates, dissolves, and recreates.

— M.K. Gandhi
Five important things to bear in mind, in relating to a dying person and their family are:


1. Acceptance

A person for whom you care is part of your life; when such a person dies, a part of you dies also. Only by emotionally confronting your own death can you relate to another's death without being anxious about it. This is an aspect of maturity which can be developed through reading, discussion, and life experience.


2. Be Honest, Not Evasive

The second thing to bear in mind is honesty and straightforwardness. Evasion or ambiguity in response to a dying person's questions only increases his/her anxiety. If there is a chance for recovery this should be mentioned. Even a slight margin of hope can be a real comfort, but this should not be overemphasized.


3. Setting Their Own Pace

Dying persons should be allowed to accept the reality of their situation at their own pace. Information should neither be withheld from them nor forced upon them. Ordinarily they will ask for it. Different people approach death in different ways, depending on their experience, their cultural background, and the degree of maturity they have reached in their feelings and in their understanding with regard to life and death. The emotional phenomena commonly experienced by dying people (listed by Dr. Kubler-Ross as denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) do not necessarily occur in a prescribed sequence. People seem to choose their own style and pace with which to die, and it often reflects the style and pace with which they lived.


4. Be Available

The willingness to be available, to commit time, energy, and caring, to the dying person and his/her family, even at irregular hours, can mean a great deal. Many people worry about what to say. The best advice is just to be yourself. If you cannot speak of death you can still be supportive. Don't avoid eye contact or physical touch. It's okay to let the dying person know your limitations. That will take the "guesswork" out of your relationship.


5. Remember the Family

Relating well to the family of a dying person is important also, for they, too, are partly dying. Family members need fellowship and emotional support, both before and after death occurs. This can take the form of small things, a brief visit, a meal, a little gift. Much of human wisdom and understanding come from within. An understanding friend needs just to listen. Advice can be useful, but should be given sparingly and mainly when asked for. Moral support is especially welcome from those who can identify with the family from having had a similar experience.

Relating to a Dying Person and Their Family
http://www.talamasca.org/avatar/death-relating.html

Selected Poems for the Bereaved

Selected Poems for the Bereaved


When Tomorrow Starts Without Me

When tomorrow starts without me,
and I'm not there to see;
If the sun should rise and find your eyes,
all filled with tears for me;
I wish so much you wouldn't cry,
the way you did today,
while thinking of the many things,
we didn't get to say.

I know how much you love me,
as much as I love you,
and each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too;
But when tomorrow starts without me,
please try to understand,
that an Angel came and called my name,
and took me by the hand,
and said my place was ready,
in heaven far above,
and that I'd have to leave behind,
all those I dearly love.

But as I turned to walk away,
a tear fell from my eye,
for all life, I'd always thought,
I didn't want to die.
I had so much to live for,
so much yet to do,
it seemed almost impossible,
that I was leaving you.

I thought of all the yesterdays,
the good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared,
and all the fun we had.

If I could relive yesterday,
just even for awhile,
I'd say goodbye and kiss you
and maybe see you smile.

But then I fully realized,
that this could never be,
for emptiness and memories,
would take the place of me.

And when I thought of worldly things,
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did,
my heart was filled with sorrow.

But when I walked through heaven's gates,
I felt so much at home.
When God looked down and smiled at me,
from His great golden throne,

He said, "This is eternity,
and all I've promised you".
Today for life on earth is past,
but here it starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow,
but today will always last,
and since each day's the same day,
there's no longing for the past.

But you have been so faithful,
so trusting and so true.
Though there were times you did some things,
you knew you shouldn't do.
But you have been forgiven
and now at last you're free.
So won't you take my hand
and share my life with me?

So when tomorrow starts without me,
don't think we're far apart,
for every time you think of me,
I'm right here, in your heart.

David M. Romano

When Tomorrow Starts Without Me
http://www.aspiring-community.com/files2/death99.html



Good-bye Mama

You were so many things to me.
You gave me life and helped me see.
You taught me all I needed to know.
You held my hand and helped me grow.

You washed my face and dried my tears
And rocked away my childhood fears.
I told you all my little-girl dreams,
Of crystal houses and golden rings.

You were always there to help me along,
And you tried to teach me right from wrong.
But the childhood years slipped away too fast.
I wish I could have made them last.

There are so many things I wanted to say,
To express my love every day.
But somehow, it seems, the words got lost,
And up till now, I didn't know the cost.

I guess you had to say good-bye-
The only time you ever made me cry.
Oh mama I miss you, wherever you are.
Maybe you're watching me from your shining star.

-author unknown-

Goodbye Mama
http://www.aspiring-community.com/files/death-goodbye-mama.html



LETTER FROM HEAVEN

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say.
But first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness;
Here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through.
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you.

It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, They'll be here later on.
I need you here badly, you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years.
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry: it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
If I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too;
That as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain;
Then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life was worthwhile.
Knowing as I passed along the way I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low;
Just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street
and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go....from that body to be free.
Remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.

Letter from Heaven
http://www.aspiring-community.com/files/death-letter-from-heaven.html



I'm Free

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free
I'm following the path God laid for me.
I took His hand when I heard him call;
I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay another day,
To laugh, to love, to work or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way;
I found that place at the close of day.

If my parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared a laugh, a kiss;
Ah yes, these things, I too will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life's been full, I savored much;
Good friends, good times, a loved ones touch.

Perhaps my time seems all to brief;
Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me,
God wanted me now, He set me free.

~ Linda Jo Jackson

I'm Free
http://mrmom.amaonline.com/ImFree.htm



Come With Me

The Lord saw you getting tired
And a cure was not to be,
So He put his arms aroud you
And whispered, "Come with me."

With tearful eyes, we watched you suffer
And saw you fade away,
Although we loved you dearly,
We could not make you stay.

A golden heart stopped beating,
A beautiful smile at rest,
God broke our hearts to prove
He only takes the best.

It's lonesome here without you
We miss you so each day,
Our lives aren't the same
Since you went away.

When days are sad and lonely,
And everything goes wrong,
We seem to hear you whisper,
"Cheer up and carry on."

Each time we see your picture,
You seem to smile and say,
"Don't cry, I'm in God's keeping,
We'll meet again someday."

Rhonda Braswell



I Did Not Die

Do not stand on my grave and weep
I am not there.... I do not sleep

I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints in the snow

I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am a gentle autumns rain

When you awaken in the morning hush
I will be that swift uplifting rush

I am the birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night

So do not stand on my grave and cry
I am not there......."I DID NOT DIE"

© Melinda Sue Pacho

I Did Not Die
http://www.debsspot.com/didnotdie.htm



Don't Cry Anymore

Don't cry any more tears for me,
I am at peace and finally free.
Like the eagles in the sky,
I am soaring, so please don't cry.

I know you love me, I love you too.
But my time was over, was finally through.
I have ascended to a better place,
Which is not confined by time or space.

To those that loved me, I did not fall;
Instead, I succumbed to a higher call,
Do not mourn me, I am with you still,
I'll always be with you, from dawn----until.

"Death affects us all differently and we deal with it in our own respective ways. But when it happens in an untimely way or fashion it becomes much harder to bear. In fact, the only way to bring peace or closure to the incident is by viewing it in a totally different manner.

~ Kathi Toups - kcdansing99@yahoo.com"

Don't Cry Anymore
http://www.debsspot.com/dont_cry.htm



A Million Times

A million times we've needed you,
A million times we've cried.
If love alone could've saved you,
You never would have died.

In life we loved you dearly,
In death we love you still.
In our hearts you hold a place,
No one else will ever fill.

It broke our hearts to lose you,
But you didn't go alone.
Part of us went with you,
The day God took you home

-- author unknown --



Weep Not of My Death

My Love, weep not of my death
tis but another passing
of Gods plan divine.
I shall pass this way again
through thundering winds of change
in your quiet moments of solitude
as your mind dances
with daydreams of yore
while walking upon a distant shore
feel and see my kindly spirit
through thundering winds of change
rising near the raging sea
dressed in a vail of romantic lace
my spirit breathing
through thundering winds of change
embracing against you
upon a desolate shore

In your dreams of nightly rest
my locks of golden hair
will fall against your naked chest
as I lay a tender kiss
upon your weary brow
I shall pass this way again
through thundering winds of change
and exit through your
rickety screen door
My Love weep not of my death
I will lovingly haunt you
for evermore
I shall pass this way again
through thundering winds of change

(c) janice williams

from her book, Poetic Walls of Green
POETIC WALLS OF GREEN
http://members.aol.com/_ht_a/Dakota2329/index.html



REMEMBER

Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand
Nor I half turn to go, yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann'd;
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve;
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.

-----Christina Georgina Rossetti


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Grief & Loss Support Links A - Z

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updated 11 18 01
Grief - Healing Links
A - Z

Happy Hospice Month -- November
Hospice Care: Comfort and Compassion When It's Needed Most


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ABCNews.com: Kids Hurt Too: Resources On Grief Counseling For Children
http://more.abcnews.go.com/sections/primetime/dailynews/wtc_kidsgrieve_orgs_010927.html

ABCNews.com: On Children: Questions and Answers: Advice From Experts on How To Deal With Children
http://more.abcnews.go.com/sections/living/dailynews/wtc_childrenqa010914_take1.html

"A robust source of death and dying links – a very handy site."
About Death and Dying Link Page
http://dying.about.com/health/dying/index.htm?rnk=c1&terms=death+and+dying

Abundant Spirituality + Codependence Recovery + Love=Joy2MeU
http://joy2meu.com/

Abuse, Trauma, and Recovery Information: Mental Health Matters!
http://www.mental-health-matters.com/abuse.html

"An After-Death Communication (ADC) is a spiritual experience which occurs when you are contacted directly and spontaneously by a deceased family member or friend, without the use of psychics, mediums, rituals, or devices. ADCs offer dramatic new evidence of life after death."
After Death Communications
http://www.after-death.com/

Afterhours Inspirational Stories : Inspirational Stories
http://www.inspirationalstories.com/1_ins.html

"Amanda the Panda provides support to grieving children and their
families through a variety of services. Extensive support is provided to
children who are grieving the death of a family member through accident, illness, suicide, or homicide. This support is provided through weekend camps, support groups, home visits, fun days, school presentations, pen pal programs, Halloween and Christmas parties, birthday cards and remembrances on the anniversary of the death."
Amanda the Panda
http://www.amandathepanda.org/

"Angels Online is dedicated to sharing the true stories of angels in our everyday lives. Millions of people have been touched by angels and have wonderful stories to share about their experiences. Here is a place for you to share your stories, and read those of others. We look forward to hearing from you."
Angels Online
http://www.death-dying.com/angels/home.htm

Angels Online Memorial Pages
http://www.angelsonline.com/

Angel's Resting Place
http://www.geocities.com/SoHo/Den/1706/MarksAngelPage.html

Annie's "How to Cope with Grief and the Holidays" Page
http://www.annieshomepage.com/cope.html

"The Association for Death Education and Counseling is a multi-disciplinary professional organization dedicated to promoting excellence in death education, bereavement counseling, and care of the dying. Based on theory and quality research, ADEC provides information, support, and resources to its multicultural membership and, through them, to the public."
The Association for Death Education and Counseling
http://www.adec.org/

"A.R.E. is an international, non-profit, membership organization founded in 1931 to preserve, research, and make available the Edgar Cayce readings. These readings, numbering more than 14,000, cover many subjects, including holistic health, ancient civilizations, dream interpretation, spirituality, and much more. For more than 70 years, A.R.E. has offered a safe, sane way for individuals to delve into subjects that are fascinating, even mysterious."
Association for Research & Enlightenment
http://www.are-cayce.com/

Aspiring to Greatness - Thanks for the Bookmark..:-)
http://www.aspiring-community.com/

At The Rainbow's End
http://www.paradiseawaits.com/Rainbow.html


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Barr-Harris Children's Grief Center
http://www.barrharris.org/

This outstanding site is a supplement to the excellent PBS special "Before I Die." A well-designed and informative site, it discusses personal concerns, issues about death and dying, through a wealth of personal stories, an interactive discussion forum, and thought-provoking essays.
Before I Die
http://www.thirteen.org/archive/bid/

Before You Can Dry Anothers Tears-You Too Must Weep!
http://www.geocities.com/~mymisty/before.html

Beliefnet; FAMILY & LIFE EVENTS | DEATH & DYING
http://www.beliefnet.com/index/index_607.html

The Bernadette Foundation
http://awakeningthesoul.com/

A strong information and support resource on death and grief topics. Includes an "Ask the Experts" area, a funeral planner, information for widows and widowers, loss of a loved one, near-death experiences, terminal illness and hospice topics, legal issues, and links to other related resources. Major topic areas include: Caregiving and illness, death and the spirit, funerals, grief support, grieving children, healing from loss, and sudden and violent death.
Beyond Indigo
http://www.death-dying.com/als

Bible Information Online at www.Bibleinfo.com: GRIEF
http://www.bibleinfo.com/info/grief.html

Butterflies Teach Us Much
http://www.debsspot.com/butterflys.htm


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Cancer Care -- The Basics of End-of-Life Care
http://www.cancercare.org/patients/endoflife.htm

Cancer Care -- Exploring Medical Options For End-of-Life Care
http://www.cancercare.org/patients/explorendoflife.htm

Cancer Care -- Nurturing the Spirit when Cancer is Advanced
http://www.cancercare.org/patients/nurture.htm

Cancer Care, Inc.-- Patient Briefs: Coping with Grief: A Difficult but Important Journey
http://www.cancercare.org/patients/grief.htm

"The Centre provides emotional support, crisis intervention and education on the life issues of serious illness, trauma, grief, death and loss. We offer a caring non-judgmental response to those who have been personally touched by the pain of a life threatening illness or the agony of grief over the loss of a loved one."
The Center for Living with Dying
http://www.thecentre.org/

The Center for Loss and Renewal is a berevement and consultation practice located in NYC. We have presented our workshops at seventeen hospices across the nation. Our site includes a monthly educational column, "On the path from loss to renewal."
Center for Loss and Renewal
http://www.lossandrenewal.com

"Your Grief Resource Center"
Centering.org
http://www.centering.org/

"Personal Growth Through Service to Others"
Changing the Face of Death
http://www.changingthefaceofdeath.org

"Child Gone Home", a poem by Allison Chambers Coxsey
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Hollow/7289/childgonehome/childgonehome.html

Choices in Dying
http://www.choices.org/

Christian Recovery International
http://www.christianrecovery.com/

Christian Resources for Recovery
http://christians-in-recovery.com/links/linkchri/grief.html

Christians in Recovery, Inc.
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Plains/7214/pray.htm

Christian Resources for Recovery
http://christians-in-recovery.com/links/linkchri/grief.html

Codependency and Recovery self-help source: Challenges, since 1992
http://www.greatstuff.com/challenges/index.html

Comfort ... A poem by Allison Chambers Coxsey
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Hollow/7289/bs2/bs2.html

Comfort for Your Loss
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Estates/1624/TABLE2/page3.html

Comfort in Grief
http://www.nevia.net/~wchall/grief.htm

Comforting Poems DJs Creations by LadyeDJ
http://members.aol.com/djscreat/poetry.html

Comforting Thoughts Entrance
http://members.aol.com/ladyedj/inspire.html

Companion in Illness
http://www.cptryon.org/prayer/heal/index.html

Condolence and Sympathy
http://www.kirstimd.com/sorry.htm

Coping With Grief
http://www.talamasca.org/avatar/coping_grief.html

"Counseling for Loss has compiled information to help people who are
grieving the loss of loved ones, security, hope and peace. This
information has been gathered from many sources and we welcome your
input. We are also compiling letters from children, adolescents and
adults that will be useful in the coming weeks, months and years for
those who are grieving loved ones. You can send these letters to us and
we will make them available on our site. Please be brief and specific in
what has been helpful to you in assimilating the loss of your loved one
into your life."
Counseling for Loss and Life Changes
http://www.counselingforloss.com/

Crisis, Grief and Healing: Men and Women (Tom Golden LCSW)
http://www.webhealing.com/

"Thank you to all 395 people who participated in answering twenty questions on the first survey ever to investigate how people experience the reality shift phenomenon."
Cynthia Larson’s Research
http://realityshifters.com/pages/research/research.html


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Death - Dying.com
http://www.death-dying.com/

Death - Dying.com - Ask an Expert
http://www.death-dying.com/experts/index.html

Death - Dying.com - Ask Linda Kids & Teens Dealing Who are Grieving
http://www.death-dying.com/experts/asklinda/index.html

Death - Dying.com - Gov't Resource Links
http://www.death-dying.com/resources/government.html

Death-Dying.com Prayer Chain Message Boards
http://www.death-dying.com/bigtalker/forum.cgi?forum=22

Death - Dying.com - Related Newsgroups
http://www.death-dying.com/resources/newsgroups.html

Death - Dying.com - Support Group Resources
http://www.death-dying.com/personal.html

"John has generously volunteered his time to answer your medical questions about Death & Dying issues. Not all questions will be answered. Please see your doctor always about any personal medical attention that you may be requiring."
Email: JLatzMD@aol.com
Death - Dying.com - Where Life Surround Death
http://www.death-dying.com/experts/askdrlatz/

"The author of this web site actively searches the WWW for links and resources to offer those who are interested in these subjects a research center dedicated to expanding consciousness, but is not responsible for the content of listed sites."
Death and Dying
http://www.beyondtheveil.net/ddlinks.html

Death and Healing
http://www.talamasca.org/avatar/death-healing.html

Deeper Still - For those who grieve and experience loss, death, pain, tragedy
http://www.grieving.org/

This site provides resources to help cope with the loss of a loved one or prepare for the future.
DignityWeb
http://www.dignityweb.com

The Distant Blue . . . by Allison Chambers Coxsey
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Hollow/7289/bs2/bs2.html

Divorce Counseling Counseling - Divorce Recovery Online: Grief & loss, Single parents adjustment divorce counseling divorce
http://www.concentric.net/~bhcr/divor5.htm

Don't Cry Anymore
http://www.debsspot.com/dont_cry.htm

The Door
http://www.geocities.com/HotSprings/Resort/9577/door.html

Dr. Phil: How to Forgive Yourself
http://women.lifestyles.netscape.oprah.oxygen.com/tows/pastshows/tows_past_20010220.html

The Dying Person's Bill of Rights
http://www.talamasca.org/avatar/death-rights.html

"Resources for people facing life-limiting illness, their families, and their professional caregivers."
Dying Well
http://www.dyingwell.com


E

A listing of online support groups dealing with grief hosted on eGroups.
eGroups Support Groups - Grief
http://www.egroups.com/search?query=grief


F

From the Hospice Foundation of America, this article helps a person to understand how to cope with sudden loss in their lives.
Facing Sudden Loss
http://www.hospicefoundation.org/facing.htm

Finding Peace in Death by Dr. Eleanor Hamilton
http://www.dnai.com/~mags/dying.html

"From Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy by William Worden"
The Four Tasks of Mourning
http://www.talamasca.org/avatar/death-tasks.html

from surviving to thriving
http://www.madstop.org/artemis/surv.html

Christian based...
A Funeral Message by Pastor GLENN PEASE
http://www.themestream.com/gspd_browse/browse/view_article.gsp?c_id=210796&src_cat_id=3799&id_list=273721,240081,206461,210796,198988,202751,284875,260239,273379,218178

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Glen and Marilyn Heavilin
http://pages.prodigy.net/gwheavilin/

Goodbye Mama
http://www.aspiring-community.com/files/death-goodbye-mama.html

"We offer unique products for those in the midst of transitions, including those facing life-threatening illness and preparing for dying. Our products meet people with compassion in these challenging times, offering inspiration for courage, acceptance and peace."
Graceful Paggsages
http://www.gracefulpassages.com/

Griefs
http://home.columbus.rr.com/cheztonner/griefs.html


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Grief and Loss Resource Centre
http://www.rockies.net/~spirit/grief/grief.html

Grief and Loss Resource Centre: Grief Links - About Death
http://www.rockies.net/~spirit/grief/griefA1.html#adeath

GriefNet Home Page
http://www.rivendell.org/

GriefNet.org
Excellent site with loads of information and 37 email support groups, room for personal memorial pages, a site for kids support, and a guestbook for posting messages. The director is Cendra Lynn and her email is Cendra@griefnet.org
http://griefnet.org

The Grief Recovery Institute
http://www.grief-recovery.com/

GRIEF RECOVERY ONLINE, GROWW Main Pages
http://www.groww.com/

This article from the Hospice Foundation of America describes the grieving process and how it helps a person to cope with loss or tragedy in our lives.
Grieving
http://www.hospicefoundation.org/grieving.htm

Growth House, Inc.
http://www.growthhouse.org/


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Healing Heart Center
http://www.talamasca.org/avatar/index.html

Heaven's Not A Crying Place: The Book
http://www.joeyo.com/heaven.htm

This article from the Hospice Foundation of America offers six helpful suggestions and tips on how a parent can help their child understand and deal with death or loss in their lives.
Helping A Child Deal With Death
http://www.hospicefoundation.org/helping.htm

An article from the NIMH that describes ways to help children and adolescents cope with violence and natural disasters.
Helping Children and Adolescents Cope with Natural Disasters and Violence
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/violence.cfm

Helping Yourself Through Griefand Help Through Holidays
http://www.talamasca.org/avatar/griefhelp.html

Hospice Cares
http://hospice-cares.com/index.html

For patients and families facing life-threatening illness...
Hospice.net
http://www.hospicenet.org/

Hospice Foundation of America
http://www.hospicefoundation.org

"HSC is a non-profit, tax exempt volunteer organization providing support services to terminally ill patients and their families and bereavement support after death. HSC provides FREE non-medical support services to help families care for dying patients in the home setting."
Hospice Support Care, Inc. (HSC)
http://www.hospicesupportcare.org/


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© Melinda Sue Pacho
I Did Not Die...
http://www.debsspot.com/didnotdie.htm

"Death. In death, as in birth, we touch the mystery of life. Where do we
come from - and where do we go? And who and what are we, really, while we're here?"
In Context - Natural Dying by Paula Hendrick
http://www.context.org/ICLIB/IC31/Hendrick.htm

I need to feel better Now!
http://www.kirstimd.com/feelbet1.htm

In Loving Memory: The Memorial Wall
http://www.geocities.com/memorialoflove2001/wall.html

"A near-death experience (NDE) is one of the most powerful emotional and psychological events known. This site is provided as a public service to give reliable information about near-death experiences, 'along with resources for more information and support."
The International Association for Near-Death Studies
http://www.iands.org/

I've Gone Home - Dedicated to Tammi Dawson by Gerald Bouey
http://www.debsspot.com/gone_home.htm

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J.J.'s Poetry of Courage
http://members.tripod.com/jjoakley/9156.html

Welcome to Journey of Hearts
http://www.kirstimd.com/new.shtml

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"Last Acts is a call-to-action campaign to improve care at the end of life. Our goals are to bring death related issues out in the open and help individuals and organizations pursue better ways to care for the dying. We believe in palliative care, which focuses on ways to ease pain and make life better for people who are dying and their loved ones."
Last Acts
http://www.lastacts.org/

A Layman's Guide to Death and Dying
http://bereavement.org/

Letter from Heaven
http://www.aspiring-community.com/files/death-letter-from-heaven.html

Life Beyond Death
http://www.bostonphoenix.com/archive/1in10/97/02/LIFE_BEYOND_DEATH.html

One mother's story of the loss of her identical twin daughters, one at birth and the other eleven years later. Regularly updated with fresh content and links.
Life, Death, Loss, and Grief-Suport for Hurting Parents
http://members.aol.com/momofalison/grief/index.html

Living Beyond Loss -- Surviving Grief, Loss and the Death of a Child
http://adrr.com/living/index.htm

Lori's Garden Of Inspiration
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Grove/4540/index.html#comfort

Loss, Change & Grief
http://www.kirstimd.com/welcome.htm


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MADD ON-LINE
http://www.madd.org/

Memorial Garden (AngelsontheNet)
http://www.angelsonthenet.com/memorialgarden/index.html

"What challenges emerge from balancing medical intervention with care and comfort at the end of life?"
Moyers on Dying
http://www.pbs.org/wnet/onourownterms/

My Friend in the Sky
http://www.debsspot.com/lindaharr.htm

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The National Hospice & Palliative Care Organization
http://www.nhpco.org/

"The Natural Death Care Project (NDCP) is dedicated to a compassionate and dignified alternative to conventional funeral practices. Thanks to the home hospice movement, more Americans are reclaiming and de-institutionalizing one of life's most powerful rites-of-passage. NDCP's educational program teaches individuals about their legal right to have a personal, meaningful and economically tailored home or family-run funeral service, a choice that can ease this final journey."
The Natural Death Care Project
http://www.naturaldeathcare.org/

A Nurse's Plea
http://www.talamasca.org/avatar/death-nurse.html


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The Official Joey O'Connor Website
http://www.joeyo.com/

On Listening
http://www.talamasca.org/avatar/death-listening.html

A resource links page from the PBS Series, On Our Own Terms: Moyers on Dying, to articles and sites related to bereavement and helping children, teens, and adults deal with grief and loss.
On Our Own Terms: Bereavement Resources
http://www.beliefnet.com/features/onourownterms/bereavement.html

Overcoming Grief & Loneliness
http://ourgodreigns.net/overcoming.html


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"Near-death states can occur to anyone at any age, including new borns and infants, and remain vivid and coherent lifelong. Come explore one of the internet's most comprehensive sites on this near-death phenomenon."
P. M. H. Atwater
http://www.cinemind.com/atwater/

A very good article from Beyond Indigo that describes the grief process in context of sudden loss, which is what so many are experiencing today.
Processing Sudden Loss
http://www.death-dying.com/articles/article.php/artID/56

A 10-page handout (PDF) prepared by the George Mason University Psychology Department to help school professionals help their students deal with the tragedy.
Psychological First Aid Kit for School Professionals (PDF)
http://www.gmu.edu/departments/psychology/homepage/PsychFirstAidKit.doc



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Rainbow Connextion - moral support and comfort for those Grieving the loss of a loved one.
http://www.rainbowconnextion.com/support.htm

Rape Recovery Help and Information Page
http://www.geocities.com/HotSprings/2402/

Recovery From grief and loss for suicidal persons
http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/grief.htm

Relating to a Dying Person and Their Family
http://www.talamasca.org/avatar/death-relating.html

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SANDS - Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Support
http://www.sandsvic.org.au/

SA\VE - Suicide Awareness \ Voices of Education
http://www.save.org/

SOCIOLOGY OF DEATH AND DYING
http://www.trinity.edu/~mkearl/death.html

Stress Doc's Home Page
http://www.stressdoc.com/

Strong vs. Strength
http://www.debsspot.com/strength.htm

Struggle With Loss
http://www.debsspot.com/struggle_with_loss.htm

Suggestions For Visiting Someone Who Is Dying
http://www.talamasca.org/avatar/deathvisit.html

A description of symptoms related to bereavement.
Symptoms of Bereavement
http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx39.htm


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TCF Troy MI ~ Bereaved Parents Grief Resources Support Group
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Plains/2882/

"Being terminally ill may make you feel like a stranger to the rest of society. You have to live differently, and most likely you will look at life differently."
Terminal Illness
http://www.death-dying.com/terminalillness/

The Three V’s of Good Friendship: Supporting Your Friend Through Illness
http://www.hospicefoundation.org/3v.htm

A national non-profit organization devoted to education, advocacy and research related to the early recognition and treatment of trauma-related stress in children and the understanding and treatment of adults suffering from trauma-generated disorders.
Trauma & Dissociation
http://www.sidran.org/

An article entitled, "Terrorism: September 11, 2001 Trauma Grief and Recovery," written by Kathleen Nader, D.S.W.
Trauma, Grief and Recovery
http://www.sourcemaine.com/gift/Html/firstaid.html

Trauma Information Pages
http://www.trauma-pages.com/

Trudy Weathersby - Death and Dying - Home Page
http://dying.miningco.com

Welcome to Twinless Twins
http://www.fwi.com/twinless/

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Watered Gardens Ministry Center ( a division of Intensive Care Ministries)
http://www.angelfire.com/biz/pastoralcounseling/

What Russell Says!!
http://www.grief-recovery.com/what.htm

When Tomorrow Starts Without Me
http://www.aspiring-community.com/files2/death99.html

"Willowgreen is a leading provider of information and inspiration
in the areas of illness and dying, loss and grief, healthy caregiving,
life transition, and spirituality."
Willowgreen
http://www.willowgreen.com/

The Wounded Healer: Grief and Loss
http://twhj.net/cgi-bin/show.cgi?44/44

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Emotional Healing
http://www.webring.org/cgi-bin/webring?ring=whole&list

Empty Arms Ring
http://www.webring.org/cgi-bin/webring?ring=arms;list

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Hospice Cares Web Ring
http://www.webring.org/cgi-bin/webring?ring=hospice&list


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Inspirations Webring
http://www.webring.org/cgi-bin/webring?ring=inspirations;list

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Learning to Live Again Webring
http://www.webring.org/cgi-bin/webring?ring=myleara&id=90&list

Love Never Dies Net Ring
http://www.ringsurf.com/netring?ring=honeybunrest;action=list


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Memorial Sites Ring
http://www.ringsurf.com/netring?ring=memories;action=list

Mourning Light Grief Support Ring
http://www.webring.org/cgi-bin/webring?ring=grief&list

My Mom - Dad Is A Survivor Web Ring
http://www.moms-dads.com/ring.html

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updated 11 18 01
Grief Links for Family Members

Online Grief Counseling for Youth

Children Coping With Grief
http://www.grannyg.bc.ca/ckidbook/grief.html

"A Child's Heart is a special area dedicated to children and teens. We have special rules for this section to insure the safety of our younger members."
A Child's Heart
http://www.death-dying.com/child/

Confident Kids Support Groups
http://www.christianrecovery.com/cktop.htm

The Dougy Center
http://www.dougy.org/

Julie's Place: A Web Site for Bereaved Siblings
http://www.juliesplace.com/

"Are you dealing with the death of a friend, sibling, parent, grandparent? Ask Linda is here to help you get through these trying times. Finally there is a place dedicated to young members coping with loss. Linda is looking forward to hearing from you!
Email her at: DolphLT@aol.com"
Kids & Teens Dealing Who are Grieving
http://www.death-dying.com/experts/asklinda/index.html

Kids Without Hope - Suicide Watch
http://www.bostonphoenix.com/alt1/archive/news/97/05/01/SUICIDE_WATCHED.html

TAG: Teen Age Grief, Inc.
http://www.smartlink.net/~tag/index.html

Trudy Weathersby - Death and Dying - Home Page
http://dying.miningco.com/

Twinless Twins
http://www.fwi.com/twinless/

Watered Gardens Ministry Center ( a division of Intensive Care Ministries
http://www.angelfire.com/biz/pastoralcounseling/


----- for Parents ------

Children in The Heavens
http://www.praisingthelord.com/heaven.html

Ethans House, Online Home To Bereaved Parents
http://www.ethanshouse.org/

Hygeia.org
http://www.hygeia.org/

Julie's Place: A Web Site for Bereaved Siblings
http://www.juliesplace.com/

Living Beyond Loss -- Surviving Grief, Loss and the Death of a Child
http://adrr.com/living/index.htm

LOOK is a list for parents who have lost a child with special needs or disability.
Loss of Our Kids
http://www.challengenet.com/~look/index.spml

Loss Of Our Kids
To subscribe to this mailing list, you will need to compose a short email. Enter this text into the body of your email message (leave the subject line blank): subscribe Loss Of Our Kids Your-name
mailto:denise@challengenet.com

MADD ON-LINE
http://www.madd.org/

Mothers who are bereaved over loss of baby or child
To subscribe to this mailing list, you will need to compose a short email. Click on the link above and enter this text into the body of your email message (leave the subject line blank): subscribe bereavedmomsshare-digest or visit them on the Web
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My Dad Is A Survivor
http://www.moms-dads.com/dads.html

My Mom Is A Survivor
http://www.moms-dads.com/index2.html

My Mom Is A Survivor "Grieving Within"
http://www.moms-dads.com/grieving.html

My Mom Is A Survivor Help Links
http://www.moms-dads.com/help.html

My Parents Are Survivors
http://www.moms-dads.com/index.html

A Parent's Prayer
http://www.praisingthelord.com/heaven2.html

for parents who have lost a child...
Pen Parents
www.penparents.org

Ray of Hope homepage
http://www.valinet.com/~kevlynn/

Subsequent loss after a pregnancy support
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mailto:SPALS-request@inforamp.net

Tears
http://www.praisingthelord.com/heaven3.html

Tribute To Our Children
http://www.moms-dads.com/tribute.html


-- for Parents --

-- for Older Members --

AARP Webplace | Coping with Grief and Loss
http://www.aarp.org/griefandloss/onlineresources.html

My Grandparents Are Survivors
http://www.moms-dads.com/grand.html

WidowNet
http://www.fortnet.org/WidowNet/

Widow/widowers
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