Okay. I didn't really mean to come across with the attitude that ''this is all okay, be okay with the change'', but at the same time ''if you don't like it you have to do something about it. And I can understand how it sounded like that.

My opinion on the sex offender issue specifically is this: These people have 'done their time'...and it's completely unfair to continue persecuting them afterwards by saying ''you can't live in my neighborhood''. These people have to live somewhere. On the other hand, I'm not saying, deal with it, or move. I agree that if you want change, then you educate yourself about your political leaders, and you vote. What I was trying to do in my original letter, was to explain that this is how it is right at the moment, and the best thing to do right now is 'this'. In the mean time, yes please find out which politicians you best align with and vote for them. But right now, there are going to be sex offenders where are children are. Our children go to school. They go to friends houses. They go to sporting events. And they're going to continue to do these things more and more as they grow, and there are sex offenders in every zip code. We can't ship the offenders off to Antarctica, as much as we may want to =) These people have to live somewhere. So I guess people are always going to be complaining about them since they do have to live somewhere. Did you know that someone who gets caught peeing in public (not that I think this is a correct or okay thing to do) can be known for the rest of his/her life as a sex offender? That's ridiculous in my opinion. It's not very regulated, and I guess that is something that I think needs to be changed.

You ask about victims of sex offenders and if I think it was fair to them. No, it was certainly not fair to them. It was not fair that it happened to you. It's not fair when it happens to anyone. It's a disgusting thing. However, we can't pull our world out from underneath the feet of ill people for our benefit. Our country is supposed to be a free one. So whats next, not selling beer in such and such neighborhood because this is the neighborhood filled with recovering alcoholics? Or how about not having any shopping stores in such and such zip code because that is where all of the recovering theives live? Or how about not having any children in the neighborhoods where sex offenders live? So where pray tell, do you put them? They are human beings. They have supposedly served their sentence. I'm just trying to show you that they have to live somewhere. If you don't let them live in our neighborhood they are going to live in another neighborhood that is just like ours: it will have children, and schools, and parks, and day care centers, and concerned parents. These people aren't going to get shipped off somewhere. Even if they go live at a rehab house somewhere for a specific amount of time without children nearby them, they are still known as sex offenders for the rest of their lives - and *they* are the ones having to live with that.

By Another Mom

From a DAD

I have been reading these opinions back and forth. Since being anonymous is so popular I will remain that way also. I fought for my country and believe in the freedom of America. I also believe that people have the freedom of expression. But what I don't believe is that people do not have the right assault, to sexually assault anyone. Lets take it a step further and really examine this. ''Another Mom'' says that we should forgive and forget. I wonder what the lady thinks that was assaulted in her own home, tied up, brutally raped repeatedly and then left for dead. I wonder if she feels the same way. You have someone who commits the crime servine time.Taken care of by society, laughing, playing cards,3 square meals and a place to sleep and earning money (.33 cents per day) but over a few years it adds up. Then they are released and free to go where they wish. Then you have the Lady who was the victim. Living in fear, loss of sleep, relationship problems with their family and spouse, and disruption to their job which effects the families well being and growth. Hopefully there wasn't a pregnancy involved because then we have more problems.
Then we have the little girls in neighborhoods that are being sexually molested and even worse missing or dead.Yet after they serve their time all is forgiven.
This kind of thinking is dillusional. This is my opinion of course but I believe that if somebody laid a hand on anyone in my family he would be living without hands and a penis. I guess then I would side with 'Another Mom'' because I guess it would be okay to let the sexual predator live in my neighborhood as long as he didn't have hands or a penis.
Unfortunatly, the legal system doesn't work that way so the next best thing is to keep ''them'' out of my neighborhood and away from my family.
An alcoholic is a danger to themselves unless they are behund a car or in a family relationship. You can dry up and be sober but you are still an alcoholic. Once a sexual predator, always a sexual predator!